Love is not everything

Three years ago, I posted the article below on Facebook. This week Facebook shared my memory. Amazingly, currently I have been struggling with the state of Love. I do understand that Love is not everything, I just needed a reminder and so do you.

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee

the success of a relationship. Love cannot help

you stick to one person all years round, and on

the other hand, cheating isn't always a product

of not loving your partner. In fact, loving

someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love

with someone else. Relationships work out

mostly because of our head not our heart. It

works out because of our emotional maturity,

empathetic intelligence and self-discipline,

because time will come when you'll see more

beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy,

rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one

you are in a relationship with. In those times,

love will not help you; self-control will help you,

emotional intelligence will come to your rescue

and commitment will keep you going. With

those characteristics, no matter how you feel

for someone else, the person you are

committed to will rank first in your life. You

think happily married people don't see better

people than the ones they married? You think

they don't feel funny sometimes? You think

they don't catch feelings? They do! But

understanding that commitment is greater than

feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that

impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but

building a relationship takes absolutely more

than what attracted you to them and takes

more than love. We are too fond of loving when

it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of

loving when love is there but that can only last

for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.

After then, you will realize that the feelings have

dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it

work, not love's responsibility. Relationships

cannot be readymade. You have to build it and

it's never always about love, it requires

commitment and intelligence. On the long run

in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them

together forever, it's determination and

commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes

little or no effort to do that. But staying in

love? Building a relationship? Only the strong

and committed ones do that. That is why we

must find that one person and commit to that

one, discipline yourself and bridle your

emotions. Building a relationship is hard work,

it's like building a career, It is like pursuing a

dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be

so bitter but you can make it work by putting

your heads together, you can scale through the

trying time by being focus and committed. The

kind of love that attracts two people together is

not the kind of love that will keep them

together. Be emotionally strong and be self-

disciplined..