International Men's Day

Why do we not appreciate our men? The day came and went with zero appreciation 😭. I did not talk to my dad, father to my son, or my son 💔. It's only in the afternoon that social media has a few generic posters of Happy International Men's Day. It's very very sad. At the end of the day, we celebrate women and not men.

Why do we not celebrate the men in our lives? The day before was Auntie's ruracio. Like always a culture that celebrates the woman. A man has to beg for the gate to be opened, feed strangers, and pay a hefty dowry amount for his bride. It's all about the woman. Even the eve to the day we are still celebrating the woman.

During this ruracio 75 years plus matriarchy seated at the high table. Yet, her 80-year-old husband was somewhere. During the introductions, the woman was placed in the middle of the curve. The husband at the end next to me. The woman was given the microphone to speak. The man was introduced as a by-the-way by the nephew.

Men, you are to blame. This is an 80-year-old patriarch whom the groom, uncles, nephews, or even fellow men ignored. Yes, he came but am sure his wife was the one formally invited. Yes, he was at the function but his wife got all the first-hand service. Yes, he never said anything but his wife was given priority. I see you saying but we don't like the attention or the fuss.

It is about respect. Men will always remain silent. In the silence, you see all the activities. Sure, it hurts. However, it has happened so many times you get used to it. When this is repeated multiple times it sticks. You will never see a sane man lift his finger to complain. Their role has been placed at the back banner.

We say karma is a bitch. Are men paying for their past? Other than your mothers and daughters every other woman is dispensable. Men are very logical. So, if it ain't working... dump and move on to the next. Have men become dispensable in society? We will still need men to build up buildings, transport people and goods, guard us from internal and external enemies, and all other manners of work to keep the society running. Then never celebrate you for your hard work.

On a personal level and having three men in my life that l should have at least appreciated, l would say men are paying for karma. In the three years of reconciling with my father, he will not call me. When l call, we will talk but he will not check up on me. Yes, it's very basic and that's what l get when at age 30 I'm looking for understanding.

I had a boyfriend who bought cake and others cooked for me for my birthday. When their birthday came along, l did nothing. Nothing! We were still together and l did nothing. If l had shame l would feel it. It only hit afterward and recently as well when l didn't appreciate my friend on his birthday. Even on a post about men, it's still talking about women.

How did we get here? Comment below.