Valentines 2021

This is the best February I have had in a really long time. The happiest I have been in a very long time.

My reality is awesome.

I realized the minute I accepted my situationship was the minute I grew the strength to stand again and fight for what I want.

The most important relationship is with me and my God. Had I lost my way..... yes. I have found it again.

I am generally a nice person and I can take a lot of shit from people. But even I have a limit. I can stretch my limit for the people I love, then again love is not enough sustenance in a relationship with me. Love is not enough. There needs to be commitment, respect and must importantly TRUST. I trust blindly just as I love blindly. Unless you give me a reason to doubt you. Plant a reason of doubt and everything will come tumbling down.

Valentine week has rolled in. In the past few years, I have always been single on valentines. Is it a bad thing? It depends from which angle you look at it. Most women feel sorry for themselves around this time and I used to be those most women.

However, it is so riveting to be single at this time of year. I preached self love last valentines.

This year, I wondered what love am I celebrating? Getting teddy bears, chocolate and roses is all fun but do you really love that man or woman? Do you wish to be with them all through the year and years to come?

If yes, then kudos for you are on the lane of something special. I celebrate you.

If not, if you have doubt, if you don't see a future with your boy/girlfriend, EXIT. We never really realize how much time we waste with the wrong person. It takes toll on you whether visible or invisible. Your energy dwindles, your psych becomes compromised, you emotions are everywhere, your finances are jeopardized and at the end of the day you ask yourself... why? Why was I there for so long?

Love, I loved her/him. (Refer to my post of why love is not enough).

Valentine celebrates love but we always forget the true meaning of love. Only those who love themselves can love others. After all you cannot give what you don't have.

I struggle with the societal pressure to not be single. It's seriously insane. Most of the pressure actually falls on us women.

My happiness comes first. No more, I say no more. Be single, happy and healthy. Happy valentines to all single girls and ladies. Let's celebrate the love we have for us.

(FYI, I have really tired not to curse on this post).